Love Stop

Stop to love me,
But don’t stop loving,
See the difference,
See the pain.
Stop to love me,
But don’t stop loving,
Don’t let me stiffen,
Break the chain.

Stop to love me,
But don’t stop loving.
I know you’ve never
Learnt grammar rules.
Stop to love me,
But don’t stop loving.
Be forever
No more than you.

Cathy

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Image taken from Planet Sign Shop

Reflections on Diana Documentary: Can a Historical Figure Have Personal Space?

The heated discussion about the new documentary Diana: In Her Own Words made my phone go mad with notifications, as I had subscribed to all Diana-related news. I had heard some of Princess Diana’s tapes previously on YouTube as they had been broadcast by the American television long before, and could not understand at first, why make all this fuss about them being shown in the UK. Now I am even doubting whether I was right to hear any of those recordings, even if they were posted for public. The thing is – I am thinking hard whether a person of historical importance should be deprived of privacy even after her death?

Diana was haunted by the media throughout her life. It is reasonable to suppose that the huge public interest in her gave the newspapers enormous profits. Does public interest equal people’s love? Every single detail of her personal life was hungrily read both by fans and haters. It was an obsession. Now that she is dead, I am convinced that haters and obsessed followers should step back and quietly respect her for what she was. Keep her memory alive, the best memories of her, and not make a sensation out of what she would not like it to be made of.

This is not just for her children’s sake. It is also for Diana’s sake. For her name’s sake. And you will never convince me that her life belongs to history and everybody has rights to know it. Do the tiniest details of her personal life matter to the history? Have they changed its course? No. We all know that she experienced difficulties in her marriage which ended in a divorce. Why do you want to hear more of it? I just do not see why it is so important.

If we truly love Diana, her will must guide us in everything we do about her memory. Would she appreciate excessive publications of her private affairs? Hardly. She always wanted to be remembered for the work she did. So why we do not make more films about her charity patronages, landmine campaigns, the famous auction where she sold most of her marvelous dresses?

She was a woman with a complicated personal life, yes. But she was more than that. Let us put an emphasis on that MORE. If we do, it will turn out that she has enough of her personal space. As any other historical figure should have. Let us respect it!

Cathy

Because of Rob. Chapter 6

The party itself was of the boring kind, just like the ones rich people usually have. But this time it was for the better – nothing could distract me while playing my role.

Ben and I, we danced all the slow dances as they were an excellent basis for looking like infantile lovebirds. My every step and movement was a sudden remembrance of one romantic movie or another. I put my arms around Ben’s neck and drew his face closer to mine with that oh-dear-I-love-you-so-much expression. It was Ben’s turn to kiss me. On my lips. So that Mrs. E. was persuaded to the highest extent. But, of course, he touched only the corner of my mouth. I wouldn’t agree to have the first kiss as a fake theatre decoration. And I didn’t have the slightest inclination to kiss Ben. He definitely wasn’t my romantic hero no matter how handsome he looked.

I stared him sweetly in the eye while thinking – why the hell am I going to a math school? I am such a damn talented Hollywood actress! If they don’t give me an Oscar for this performance, I will go and steal it from the next winner (only if it’s not Keira Knightley, Kate Winslet or Reese Witherspoon, my idols).

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Mrs. E. was watching us with that slightly reproachful expression adults usually do when teenagers are looking too intimate in their presence.

Mrs. Caroline was the happiest person of the party. I winked at her, putting my head on Ben’s shoulder with a smile. She could almost think I meant I really  like your boy. In a way, she would be right – it was nice and safe, being with him and even playing romance with him. It is always like this when you are not fallen head over heals, although everyone around thinks you are, and only the two of you know what all this sweetness really means – just friends. It was a mute agreement between us as it was impossible to talk in the madness of that mercilessly loud music. I could easily lose my voice if we had talked.

My knees felt like failing me after all that endless dancing on high-heeled shoes and I gladly let Ben support me. No matter he really had to put his arm around my waist to make me stable. In other circumstances, I might have objected, but not then. Moreover, it made our Oscar-winning performance deserve a double Golden Globe in addition.

The very moment I leaned against Ben’s shoulder to be more secure, Mrs. Caroline made us a sign to approach. She and Mrs. E. had been watching us all along and it seemed like they had been talking about us. I was arrogant enough to suppose that they had been discussing me in particular.

Cathy

Image taken from Us Weekly

Ask Me Anything Tag

Ask Me Anything Tag is one of my favourite challenges. I completed it almost three month ago on my other blog Love Indian Cinema thanks to the encouragement from StephJ at Scale it Simple. I have decided to do it again here, on My English Paradise, for three reasons:

  1. Writing this post gives me pleasure;
  2. Time has passed and I am just curious how different I am now;
  3. The wonderful followers of My English Paradise may not have seen this tag before.

Rules for Ask Me Anything Tag:

  • Tag the person who has nominated you
  • Invite other bloggers to complete the questions by tagging them in your post
  • Use the ask me anything image in your post
  • Answer as many of the questions as you like that I completed below

I invite everyone who reads this join the challenge, and therefore do not make any particular nominee’s list. Please leave me a comment when you make up your mind and tag me in your post so that I have fun reading your answers!

Let’s start!

 

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How did you start your blog?

My English Paradise appeared when I felt I was trapped into a very specific topic at Love Indian Cinema. I searched for an opportunity to share my prose and poetry, to express my passion for history and literature. I started with an England-related diary entry, and “stayed” there for ever. Loving everything English, I knew there is enough room for self-expression on my new blog.

Are there other types of writing you enjoy doing?

Basically, everything I write can be found here 🙂

Do you see yourself as an optimist, pessimist, or neither?

Still an optimist, as three months ago. Bollywood has had a huge impact on my attitude.

Leader or follower?

Trying to be both. Leader on my own website. A faithful follower of yours 🙂

Talker or listener?

Depends on my mood. I admit I prefer listening to speaking right now, maybe because I am surrounded by very clever people.

Broad-minded or opinionated?

This is a wide question. Depends on the topic. Sometimes I may be very stubborn and conservative about something. Screen adaptions of my favourite Victorian novels which have nothing in common with the books are taken very painfully by me. Otherwise I guess I am broad-minded.

Introvert or extrovert?

More of an introvert. Prefer writing to talking, which is quite understandable for a blogger. (same as three months ago)

Type A or Type B?

Generally type A, but I understand how important it is to turn into type B sometimes.

What’s your favourite place in the world to be?

My little library!

If you could live anywhere in the world for 3-6 months where and why?

Fictional:

  1. The Beast’s castle from the Disney movie Beauty and the Beast. (has the best library in the world!)
  2. Pemberley. (most magnificent house, garden and the legendary lake!)

Real:

  1. Canterbury – love the name, the cathedral and the tales!
  2. Oxford – it’s a pleasure to be surrounded by clever people!

Beach vacation or mountain retreat?

Neither, I guess. I prefer sightseeing (museums, art galleries and stuff).

What is your favorite place you’ve ever traveled to?

My top three:

  1. London
  2. Vienna
  3. Milan

How do you keep yourself mindful on a daily basis?

I have my work-rest pattern strictly scheduled, so that the quality of my job does not suffer from exhaustion and the resulting carelessness. Remember that you will not do more by working non-stop. (same as three months ago)

How do you inject happiness into those days when you’re not feeling as positive as you’d like to?

The Scarlett rule, as I call it, tomorrow is another day, is not just a pretty quote from a classic, but an optimist’s guide.

What is your favorite time of day?

From five to nine p.m. I spend it chatting with my family, reading, writing, and watching some nice films.

What do you see when you walk into a room full of strangers and then how do you proceed?

Is it a party or a business conference? Will try to produce an answer which could possibly work for both. Well, I see a bunch of people I have never seen before. Actually, I do not take too much pains to hide my embarrassment. A shy smile and an awkward hi is something that charms the public immediately. So, after having charmed them in such a manner, I find the friendliest person (according to my first impressions), go straight to him or her and introduce myself. Gradually, I get to know most of the people in the room and can be enjoying two things – either answering a bunch of questions from their side, or listening to their precious personal opinions on whatever topic they choose.

An addition to what I wrote previously: it may also happen that I close the door and walk out – just in case I’m mistaken and have to be in another room/study/conference hall.

The world ends in 48 hours and you’ve lost your bucket list. What two things would you like to do?

If I were not too panicked, I’d go to Rochester castle, climb those 200+ steps and watch the world from above. Oh, yes, and I would definitely wear a Victorian dress to feel like Jane Eyre.

If you could have dinner with anyone dead or alive, who would it be?

Currently I’m fascinated with Empress Maude, the Lady of the English, who almost became the first Queen of England. I would be glad to find out why her plans failed, and what she was generally like, I mean, if she was beautiful, if she was really as edgy as described, and what her hobbies were.

What is your dream job?

Everything that is connected with creative writing

Do you have any pets?

Yes, I do have a red cat, a rather naughty one, but still lovely. (he hasn’t changed during the last three months.

What book(s) have made you cry?

I do not cry that often when reading a book, but The Fault in Our Stars is something impossibly heart-breaking. The last pages were soaking wet with my tears. Luckily I haven’t read anything as tear-jerking since then.

Thanks again to StephJ for this experience!

Cathy

The image taken from Scale it Simple

The Happiest Award

 

Huge thanks to Tabi Bee from Busy Bee for the opportunity to participate in The Happiest Award post rally! Created by  Silvia from thehappiestpixel, it is a relatively new award and longs for more nominees!

The rules:

  • Thank the person who has nominated you and provide a link to her blog
  • Name the award creator and provide a link to her blog
  • Share the rules
  • Share the award logo
  • Answer the questions
  • Nominate 5-15 people
  • Share your favourite blog post (from your blog)
  • Notify the people that you have nominated that you have nominated them

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Questions:

This award is about happiness, so why not talking about the things that make us happy? Can you tell us your favourite…

  • place: library
  • film/tv show: Pride and Prejudice (1995)
  • song:  Can’t Fight the Moonlight
  • activity: reading
  • drink: hot chocolate
  • food: sushi, pizza, pasta
  • holiday: Easter
  • book: Jane Eyre

Name 3 things that make you happy…

  • A new book
  • A great idea for a new blog post
  • A delightful comedy

My Favourite Post:

Love in a 100 Words and Ten Facts About You and Me

My Nominees:

Among these five amazing bloggers:

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Through The Coloured Glass

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Kristen Twardowski

Sara in LaLaLand

… following Tabi Bee’s great example, I nominate everybody else who will comment on this post, since I might not be aware of your amazing blog and am eager to discover it!

Cathy

Why a WordPress Like Means Much More than a Facebook Like

Inspired by Why I won’t follow you back! by Naya on My life book, and Follow by Jeff Cann on The Other Stuff, I decided to explore the significance of WordPress likes rather than follows (since it has been done thoroughly by my fellow bloggers) and compare to those on Facebook.

First of all, let us see what you invest in one blog post versus fb profile pic (probably the most “liked” item on your timeline). Your article equals brainstorming + editing + formatting + wish to appeal to the audiences + courage to share your passions and opinions. A profile pic requires maximum some hysteria about a dozen unsuccessful selfies and a mini heart attack because of low battery on your phone. As you see, writing on WordPress is much more challenging and the appreciation of your efforts then costs infinitely more.

Now let us answer the question who are your “likers”. On Facebook, those are (mostly) people you know in person, somebody who will hit a “like” just because they know you, and not because your latest photo is really as ravishing as Angelina Jolie’s. A Facebook “like” is (most often) either the fulfillment of an unwritten rule of friendship (you are my friend = you like my profile pic), or a way to attract your attention and flatter you a bit. On WordPress, you hardly know anyone – we are here from all around the world, many of us even do not reveal our faces or tell everything about our personal problems. We are here to express ourselves. Thus, a WordPress “like” means that the way of our self-expression is valued, our ideas are appealing to someone, our brain content is worth being published because is appreciated by another creative, thinking individual.

Hence, when I press a “like” on your post, you may be sure that I really-really mean it. I am very proud of having a sidebar called “Posts I Like” – and yours appear there as soon as you trigger my thoughts or move my feelings. I am extremely happy to see the orange dot by the notifications bell and discover that some of my efforts have appealed to you, too. Tiny red squares on Facebook never affect me the same way.

On Facebook, you are who appear to be. On WordPress, you are what you think.

Cathy